Making it real is always so much heavier than just abstractly talking about it.
No matter the circumstances. No matter the decision.
We all make choices for our own personal reasons. We weigh the risks, choose what feels right. We consider the worst, hope for the best. We make the most of it, if it turns out badly. We make it work.
The real happiness and the steady calm are found in how you handle it all and how you make those decisions. Is it what you really want? Are you choosing to see the good in it? Are you focusing on everything you don't have?
There’s no wrong in your choice. It just feels wrong, when the only thing you can bring yourself to see in life is the mistake.
We are guided to make every decision for a reason – to level up, to learn a lesson, to find answers, to evolve.
Even if we don’t know what that reason is, it always works out the way it’s supposed to.
And there’s such a deep sense of comfort in that.
We all have to make large, life-changing decisions throughout our lives. There are always so many layers of complications and details that make these decisions harder than they need to be, and when you’re in the military, those layers and details exponentially multiply.
Making a normal military decision now forces you to put the next however many years of your life into perspective, because once you make that decision there’s no going back. You can’t just quit or change jobs or move. You decide and it’s done.
Now try to make those decisions while your significant other is deployed with crappy internet and very little phone use. YEAH. It’s just as horrible as it sounds. Most of the time, it’s even worse. But, this is our normal. Crazy as it sounds, my husband and I, and countless other military families successfully move through this kind of decision-making together all the freakin’ time.
I was talking to a friend recently about it. We both had just made crazy joint-decisions with our husbands over the internet. Decisions that normal, everyday people wouldn’t even dream of making in normal, everyday situations, let alone via email or Facebook Messenger.
What came out of that conversation were some really juicy, deeply supportive, long-ass text messages that I refined into the above nugget of wisdom, so I could share them with you.
Ultimately, all major decision-making is hard, so the next time you’re making a huge decision and have no idea what to do, I hope you find some solace knowing that you’re not alone and that it will be ok. No matter what you decide.
With love, Light & Warm Cups of Chai Tea,