As we start a new year, it’s so easy to focus on all that we want to be, see and do in the coming months, and it’s even easier to forget where we’ve been the last few months. When I took a moment last week to reflect back on 2015, I became so overwhelmed with all that I had done and been through, that it brought me to tears. Happy tears, sad tears, evolved tears. 2015 was a year of a lot of alone time, a lot of change and a lot of healing. I'm thankful for it all. Every last second of it. Because now I'm ready for really amazing things in 2016.
The energy at this time of year is pretty magical. It’s fresh, exciting and it truly feels like anything can happen. It gives credence to the whole “change is a good thing” thing. I’ve never been a resolution-maker. Mostly because I’m proactive by nature, so when I want to make a change or try something new, I just do it. I don’t wait for the calendar to start fresh for me to start fresh. But it’s also because resolutions feel so limiting. Like this is the only thing I want and this is the only thing I’m going to focus on this year and if I don’t do this then I’ve totally failed at life. Ugh. It stresses me out just typing that.
Because I’ve never been a resolution-maker, I’ve never really harnessed the magic of this time of year. I saw the first week of January as a continuation of the last week of December. Until I discovered The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte last Spring. The general gist is that you come up with 3-4 core desired feelings that you want to feel through lots of questions and exercises that she details in her book. These feelings are soul-based feelings, like the things you absolutely want to feel, deep down in the root of your being, no matter what. And then every day, you make your decisions and you set your goals based on those feelings. If an opportunity doesn’t make you feel good (even if it should), then you don’t do it. If you want to learn how to speak Balinese for no other reason than it makes you feel good, then you learn it.
So, last year I read the book, did the exercises, unearthed my words/feelings and lived by them. And it worked. Despite all the crazy that was happening in my life at the time, I felt elegant, abundant and connected. I felt good.
I’ve been re-reading The Desire Map and taking so many notes because the whole book is just dripping with feel-good wisdom. I just got to the workbook where you do the exercises. This time, I already know my words/feelings though. They came to me as I was reading and re-connecting with me. It was so much easier this time. Last time felt like a struggle. I think that once you really start to get to know yourself, it’s a lot easier to get back to yourself when you go astray. I’m thinking I’ll still do the exercises, just to clear out my soul, but I can’t help but feel like they might not be necessary this time.
Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating those feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life. // Danielle LaPorte
So here I am 2016. I’m going to do everything I need to do to feel boundless, prosperous and joyful . I'm going to live creatively and I’m going to feel good. Because when you feel good, you attract good things and you give other people permission to feel good too. So really, you’re living creatively and feeling good is a service to all of humanity.
With Love, Light & Warm Cups of Chai Tea,